Inspiration

Valentines Day

I wanted to make a video about the dogs anyways, but Valentines Day seemed appropriate to me for some reason so I did it. Check it out!

I also have been putting in a great deal of work to be better at editing and creating videos. There are so many intricate details to videos. So much to think about and do. I hope you like it!

My Latest Little Project

I’m really proud of this little video. I have a dream for my blog and YouTube channel and social media. This is the beginning…

Feel free to share my videos or any of my content from this time forward.

You Deserve This…

I watched an episode of Gary Vaynerchuk’s show on YouTube. Ask Gary Vee is the show name. It featured the artist Jewel. I hadn’t seen or heard anything from her since her songs years and years ago. I was skeptical when I clicked on the video… But I’m glad. I will link it at the end of this little blog. She said something in the video that just completely struck me in a way I don’t think I had ever been struck before. Here is the quote…

“I was lonely. A lot of people are lonely. But I deserved to be lonely. Because I only told truth in one place and it was a notebook that nobody read.”

She was talking about mental health and her journey through life. If I remember correctly, I was almost moved to tears when I heard her say this. I realized in that moment why I felt the way I did and why a lot of experiences have shaped out the way they have. I have really only “spoken the truth” while I have coached over the years. Especially in the last several years. Let me qualify that a little more… I haven’t been untruthful or told lies. But the only place I have let it all out has been while coaching or leading people. I have had people describe these moments as bright lights or an energy that can be felt. I have referenced the “flow state” of mind before. That raw, unfiltered sharing of information and thoughts. I believe that speaking the truth and flow state are the same thing for me.

When I heard this little quote form Jewel, I immediately opened up my notes app and wrote it down but I had no idea where or how to share it. I wasn’t using my blog then like I am now. I want this blog to be a place where I can embrace “speaking the truth” and my flow state of consciousness. Again… I don’t mean speaking the truth as in truth and lies, but speaking unfiltered and raw and putting it all out there. I guess this will be my notebook and I hope more people read it. Here is the video… It is long but worth it.

30 In 30

Well… It is just about that time in my life. I will be 30 years old in 30 days. The time in my life in which I thought I would have it all figured out. Probably have a house, cars, wife, children, dogs, and be successful. You know, that “American Dream” crap people always talk about. Boy was I wrong.

Actually, I wasn’t really wrong. I’ve had most of those things at one point in time. I have tasted success on high levels. I have had and continue to care for several fur babies that I love more than anything. I have loved and lost. I’ve been through many apartments and vehicles. More important than any of that is what I have gained over the years. Especially the last five or six years.

I am wealthy in knowledge, adventure, experience, and wisdom. I have done and achieved things that most people twice my age don’t get a chance to do. I have been able to impact a handful of people in this world and make a difference in their lives. I have given… Abundantly given of myself to the people around me to try to improve their days, weeks, months, years, and lives.

I have “figured it all out” many different times, only to be reminded that I don’t know one damn thing about this life or this world. I have bet all my chips on things that have left me high and dry. I have had things unexpectedly pop up that were more wonderful than anything I could have planned for or created myself.

I have known extreme darkness and extreme light. Massive highs and massive lows. I have also… Just existed at times. I’ve had no clue where my next paycheck was coming from and I have had heaps of gifts and bonuses and other blessings. The same maintenance is also true for this area of life as well.

Here are the really important things to me, as I look back on my life. I have realized that everything happens for a reason. We don’t always know why or how or when or anything, really. But there is a reason for it all. Sometimes it is just to teach us a lesson, like making the best of a really awful situation. I have learned why I am who I am and how I came to be a this person. I have learned how to read other people and why they are the way they are and to strive to understand instead of to judge or condemn them. I have learned what lights my soul on fire, what makes me happy, and how I want to impact the world around me. I have learned to be comfortable in my own skin and my own life, no matter what that looks like to other people. I have realized that there are only a couple things in life that are really important… Your happiness is one of those things. Pursuing that relentlessly and tirelessly is worth it in the end.

And this brings me to the other thing that I have learned. This is probably the most important thing I have learned… I have wonderful friends and family that will do anything and everything for me in pursuit of my happiness and my goals. Fantastic people that will give of themselves freely and abundantly on a moment’s notice. I have learned that the most valuable and powerful thing in this world might not actually be our own happiness, but doing what we can for others around us to impact their happiness. Giving to others and giving back to the people around you is the best and most rewarding thing you can do.

I wanted to write this post as an acknowledgment of sorts and to clear my head of the thoughts that I have. My life isn’t what I thought it would be as I approach this milestone, but I believe it is what it should be. I also believe that the next several decades will be bigger, better, and more amazing than the previous ones. I constantly see things about some of the great people in our world and how they didn’t do this or that until later in their lives… Maybe my timeline isn’t the same as everybody else’s… Maybe I have to take the long way to the success and achievement that I so desire.

My final thoughts on this post are that progress is progress. It might not be a large bank account or wild and crazy achievements or things, but I have progressed mentally and emotionally by leaps and bounds and I am thankful for that. I believe that we all should be kind to everyone around us, including and especially ourselves. I also believe that we need not compare ourselves to those around us and judge our speed or timeline against theirs. Things will come when they are meant to. Continue pressing forward with your head held high. Remember the things you have learned from all of the knowledge, information, experience, and wisdom you have gained. And most importantly apply that wisdom to all the future experiences you have and try to impact the people around you positively without any concern for your benefit or reward.

Goodnight to you all. I hope my journey through life helps you somehow.

 

Number Three

The third rule is particularly interesting to me. Especially given my life and how it has progressed. I have said several times in my life recently that all I have is the things I have done to help other people in this world. I have tried vigilantly to take care of the people around me as best I can. To reach out and to give them all that I have. I think this is the best gift that we can give anybody in this world. This talk hit me solidly in the chest. Simon is a wonderful mind and a great leader.

I Have A Confession…

I sit here… On my computer in my apartment. Watching YouTube videos and writing things and something popped into my head. I have to confess… I HAVE ADD LIKE CRAZY! I have so many things I want to say, write, share, do, accomplish. I almost don’t know where to start or how to begin. I have never been more ambitious and more driven to help people with my mind and voice as I am right now. I have been able to “hack” myself recently and get to know myself on a much deeper level than ever before. With this has come a spark of creativity and motivation and ambition. I want to do everything… All the things. All the stuffs. Help everybody with everything… Share, create, build, work, type, grind, hustle. Whatever… Use my blog, vlog, social media, and everything else that I can to do it.

Just wanted to share that. I hope somebody can sympathize and that you understand. I almost don’t want to sleep so that I can pump out thoughts and ideas.

Flow State

 

I just can’t get enough of this guy. He has helped me to hack my own brain and emotions. I connected with this video so much. As I sat and listened to him talk I realized my own flow state and process. Coaching… Teaching… Helping other people is my flow state. Also traveling alone… Getting away. These times my self editing and self consciousness disappear. Anybody who has worked with me or around me has seen it. I can freestyle and talk and rant endlessly. I think this might be the reason why I like coaching and helping others. And love traveling alone so I can think… Get out of my own way.

These last several months have been that for me as well. I have been largely uncomfortable. On the move… Also consulting for coaching and helping other’s golf. I have found happiness in movement and action and I have found fear and anxiety and stress in any stagnation or lack of action. I believe that I crave this flow state. I am a daydreamer. I always have been. I believe this is why I can ramble to a camera on my vlog while driving or doing something so easily. I’m in my creative flow state that I crave. Editing videos is the same thing… It feels like killing the adult and letting the child run. And I believe that is what many, many people struggle with and would like to do.

Side tangent and I will wrap this little post up. I believe that children are mostly geniuses. I also believe that adults screw them up, for the most part. Think of the child questioning why to something the adult scolds them for. That’s the way it is. Be quiet. I said so… Do as your told. I believe that from a young age our creativity and desire to explore and create is largely stifled. I also believe that most adults are screaming inside to be creative and explore and create.

Last thing, promise. I’m gonna tell you a quick story about an athlete I coached. We will call her Bill, because that’s funny and I said so. Bill was trying to do a clear hip to handstand on a low bar. She could only achieve this skill by changing her body positions from an arch to a big pike and then back to a big arch and that is generally frowned upon for the skill and in the world of gymnastics. I heard many other adults scolding her for how “loose” she was in her core because of the observation of this body shape change. I was working with Bill one day while fully engaged and deep into a flow state and being highly creative. Bill achieved her handstand position in the way she knew how and I started to join along with the other adults and scold her for being loose. I stopped… Took a deep breathe, thought for a second, and then opened my mouth. I said… “You’re a genius. Everybody tells you that you’re weak and loose in your core. But you’re not… Your core and mid section are the absolute strongest part of your body. Because you were taught how to do the skill improperly and your shoulder strength has not been properly developed, you have figured out that the only way to achieve the skill to a handstand and keep up with the other athletes and be perceived as hard working and successful is to use your strengths to overcompensate for your weaknesses. Congrats, Bill. You’re a genius. Here is what you should do to strengthen your shoulders and this is how the skill works properly… Do these things and nobody will ever tell you how weak and loose you are again.”

I hope anybody that reads that can understand the power of the words to the athlete. The validation of effort and the direction of focus. The smile that flashed across her face was something you should wish to be able to bottle and hand out to everybody you interact with. Instead of condemning her to a life of unsuccessfulness and failure, I validated her efforts and focused her in a positive direction with enthusiasm and sincerity. The results were magic. I’ve done this hundreds of times with athletes by thinking differently, reverse engineering what I want, using empathy, and being positive and enthusiastic in what I say and do.

Thanks for reading! Back soon!

 

 

 

Sharing

I wanted to take a minute to write out this post and share this video because I hope it finds anybody that needs it. When I watched the video it spoke to me and that’s why I want to share it.

I love her story. I love her mind. I’m going to buy her book and I’m going to start consuming her content more. I had no idea who she was other than a singer who was famous years ago for several songs I can’t even really remember.