Andrea Bailes

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I want to tell you about a child named Andrea Bailes. This was not easy to write for me at all. I can’t ever remember crying like this in my life. I can hardly see the keyboard to write this through all the tears. Everything I remember just brings more and more.

Andrea was a fourteen year old girl in the eighth grade. She would have attended Point Pleasant High School. Andrea was a gymnast, but also dabbled in soccer and volleyball. From all accounts she did those two sports very well. I never had the pleasure of watching her do other sports besides gymnastics. She was dear to my heart through gymnastics. I had the privledge of coaching this athlete for several years.

Andrea was involved in a car accident on Friday the 18th of November, 2011. The accident took her life.

Back up several years. Andrea came to SOGA and her first year she competed level four. In the beginning she was not very good and her flexibility was terrible, but she was strong and she worked her ass off. Within the span of a month or so her splits had gone from hideous to almost all the way down because she had been working on them outside the gym constantly. I remember teaching her to do her shoot through. She struggled mightily with these because of her long legs. She never gave up. She kept trying it over and over and over again until she got it. She kept a good attitude all the time and would often encourage her team mates even when she wasn’t doing well and even when the other athletes were doing the same skills better than her. She improved greatly in that first year.

Her second year at the gym brought more of the same. She was tall, thin, and inflexible but again she never gave up on the skills despite all of her struggles. Level five was better for her because she could showcase her strength much more. Throughout the entire year she was probably the best team mate in the gym. Still, constantly encouraging everybody. She always had a good attitude. She was always smiling. She always worked hard. Anytime her attitude went south it was because she was frustrated with herself because she wanted to do the skills better or do them right.

Andrea finished her second competition season at SOGA as level five state champion on Uneven Bars, but that didn’t seem to matter to her. Her team had not done as well as we had all liked at states and she was disappointed. She did what she always did. She went back into the gym and quietly worked her ass off. She would try her hardest to do every little thing she was asked to do and it rarely came easy to her. She kept trying.

This brings me to our third season together. I had already spent more than two full years with her and I saw her two, three, and sometimes four days a week. It was decided that her and her team mates would be level sixes this year. Yet again she confidently and quietly went to work at the gym. She did it with determinate smile at all times. The beginning of this season was rough for all of the level sixes. They made huge strides before meet season. Andrea struggled on beam and floor, mostly due to a lack of flexibility. She began to shine on vault and bars. She constantly pushed her team mates to do better on those two events. Because of her lack of flexibility, back walkovers were particularly troublesome for her. She tried them constantly and failed constantly but she never gave up. I remember the mighty roar that went through the gym the first time she landed one of the beam, which was probably halfway through the season, at least. This thought brings tears to my eyes now. She was so happy. But it wasn’t happiness for herself. She was happy that she might be able to help her team on beam now.

As the season progressed she kept getting better, as did her team mates. Even after landing walkovers in the gym with more consistency… I don’t believe she ever stayed on the beam at competitions. She continued to encourage her team mates with her chin up and a smile on her face even after she would fall off beam. The fire would come into her eyes the second we headed to vault and bars and she would shine. She was so aggressive and she did everything I asked her to do. She won lots of meets on vault and bars. She took her awards with a smile, knowing that she had done everything she could to help her team mates. She would then sit and watch everybody else get medals on beam, floor, and in the all around with the same smile.

When states rolled around that year the girls were ready to go. They had done well all year. They had won most meets on vault and bars, largely thanks to Andrea’s efforts. We did beam first and it was not so good for us. Andrea came off the beam yet again, but then cheered on her team mates with a great attitude and a smile. Floor next. Much better results for all the girls, but still not what we all wanted. As we made our way to vault, I saw the fire. I saw it in Andrea’s eyes and I saw it in the other girls. They were ready to go. My five little level sixes dominated vault. They were “rock stars” and they earned every tenth they got. Her score somehow did not even count for our team on vault but you couldn’t tell. They had all vaulted well and she was happy and so where the rest of the kids. I tried to refocus them for bars and they took the coaching well. They warmed up and competed like rock stars again. Andrea’s score was second highest on our team, but again… That didn’t matter to her. After we were finished I told the girls I was proud of them. They had worked their asses off all year and they had showed up well at states. When things shook out my five little level sixes took second place as a team. We were first on vault and bars as a team and Andrea took first on bars. I never heard a word about her bar title from her, but she was so proud of the second place team award.

This spring, summer, and fall Andrea continued to work her ass off like normal. We played with flipping vaults for fun and she did them well. We did giants with some consistency and she was consistently hitting casts and clear hips in handstand. She developed one of the prettiest layout flyaways I have ever seen. She finally was on an even playing field on beam and floor. No terrible walkovers to set her back. She could do a handspring and cartwheel-cartwheel. She could also show some of her power on floor and ended up getting pretty good at her level seven passes.

None of this matters though, because she did it all with a great attitude. She worked her ass off when she was in the gym and she did it with a smile. She ripped three times last week. Big, bloody rips. She peeled the skin off and went back to work. I have seen her straddle a bar and get up laughing. And yeah… I meant bar, not beam. She straddled it really hard. She jumped up smiling and laughing at herself even as the tears came to her eyes. Andrea was the first girl to encourage somebody. She was the first girl to give a team mate a kick in the butt when they weren’t doing what they were supposed to. She was the first girl to laugh at a team mate and she was also the first girl to laugh at herself, or me. She was ever the smart ass as she got into her young teenage years. Every coach, athlete, and parent loved her. Every single younger child looked up to her. They didn’t look up to her because of her tall, thin, extremely muscular frame. They did so because she was an amazing child, athlete, friend, team mate, daughter, and sister. She was everything that I hope my children turn into.

I think back on all the memories over the past few years with Andrea in the gym. She has been with me since SOGA opened. She aspired to be a coach. I’m not completely sure, but I think that it was because of me. She constantly helped out her team mates and they would listen to her almost as well as they would listen to me. She had the worst hillbilly accent at times and we all enjoyed correcting her and gently teasing her. She would always take it with a huge smile and would usually give it back to me or the other kids. Just like she did a little more than twenty-four hours before she lost her life. Andrea grew into a beautiful, confident, funny, caring, and all-around amazing young girl. Like I said before, she was always a smartass and she kept me on my toes. That made me love her even more. I rarely had to question her effort or desire, if ever. My only regret is not being able to see her outside the gym more. I know that she was a wonderful person outside of our doors as well. Everybody that knew her liked her. I will never forget Andrea Bailes as long as I live.

I had to talk with my athletes and parents today. It was extremely hard. Most of the kids already knew about Andrea and all of the parents knew. I tried to be strong for the kids. I told them all I loved them and that if they needed anything at all that I wanted them to come to me. I told them I didn’t care what it was. If they needed somebody to listen or talk to, a shoulder to cry on, or if they just needed a hug… I would do whatever it took to help guide them through this difficult situation. There were many tears shed. I told my athletes to go over to a couple mats to sit, hang out, and talk. Soon their quiet talks turned into laughter as the parents all began discussing things we could all do to help out Andrea’s family. After the kids had some time to decompress I went over to them to talk some more. I told them that Andrea embodied so many great qualities that we all had to take with us. She blessed our lives with her smile, whit, work ethic, and stubborn determination to be the best she could be. I told my gymnasts that I was going to continue on with my life and try to take those values with me. I never want to let Andrea Bailes and her attitude die in my heart and mind. I told them that I thought Andrea would want us to continue on and work our asses off to be the best we could be, just like she would. They all agreed. I left them alone and a short time after their gentle laughter turned into running, jumping, and flipping. The kids began to deal with this problem together, in the gym. Andrea would have done the exact same thing. She always did. She never missed an opportunity to play with her friends in the gym.

As I sat in the gym I kept looking around from event to event. In my head I kept seeing her doing her skills on the events. All the little mistakes, all the quirks, all the beautiful lines. The door opened and an even worse realization hit me. Not only would I never see this wonderful child do gymnastics again… I would never see her walk through those doors again. Somebody else walked through the door but all I could see was her head poke in as she sort of shuffled in towards the lockers. She had a very unique way of entering the gym and I’m not sure if anybody else has ever noticed it.

I don’t know where things will go from here. I know Andrea was a huge part of my life and the lives of all the people at SOGA. She was very dear to me in particular because of all of the qualities I have gone on and on about. It feels to me like a little sister or daughter has been taken away. I can only imagine how her family feels.

I do know that going forward I want to keep her memory alive in my heart and mind. I want to keep those qualities burning inside me. I want to be the best coach I can possibly be and I want to make these kids into the best people they can possibly be, and hopefully great gymnasts. I want to do it for Andrea Bailes. That phrase has been echoing in my head for hours and hours. For Andrea Bailes. For Andrea Bailes. She has done so much for me and for others and I can only hope to do as much for others as she has done. Only time will tell and only time will heal or lessen the pain.

I do not know how to move on in this post, in the gym, or in life right now but I do know why I am going to do things and how I am going to do things. I am going to do it to the best of my ability at all times, because that is what she did. I am going to try to be a better encourager, because that’s what she was. I am going to try to go about things with more of a quiet confidence, because that was what she did. I am going to do all of this because Andrea Bailes made me a better person and a better coach. I am going to do it for her because it what she deserved.

I will never forget you and I will always appreciate the time I was able to spend with you. Thank you for all the great memories and thank you for being such a wonderful person. You will be missed more than you ever know by me and everybody else. I love you. I only hope I can be as great a person as you were.

28 comments

  1. This is an awesome tribute to Andrea. It is obvious that she was and is a huge part of the gym family. This seems to be a very special place and many children and their families are lucky to have such a place in this world. I will continue to pray for Andrea’s family and all of the gym family as well. She was a lucky young lady to have a coach that truly cared and loved her. Take care.

  2. Everyone loves you Andrea! But no body has to worry where you meant baby girl! Because we all know your in heaven! && I will see you there! Your my. Best friend! && your still here no matter how much we all cry over what has happen! But we all love you!!!!! && your still my best friend always will be && when I get up there with you we can finish what we didn’t get to do. Like watch the football game we didn’t get to go see today. 😦 but I love you girl! && in my eyes your still here right beside me.

  3. This is beautiful. She will be greatly missed.. & everyone loves her so much!! Atleast she didn’t suffer. She’s in a way better place now. & she is watching over all of us ❤

  4. This is absolutely beautiful(: Andrea is in a beautiful place now. She made Point Pleasant such an amazing place for everyone to live in. She always had such a positive attitude. Andrea is one girl that I didn’t get to talk to enough, or get to know well enough. The loss of Andrea brought our whole community together. Her memorial service was beautiful. Andrea has made a huge impact on my life. She may be gone but she is not forgotten. This really doesn’t feel real, this feels like a nightmare that I can’t wake up from. Andrea will always be in my heart. Our #7 is playing in heaven </3. It breaks mu heart that she is gone. I love and miss you Andrea. (: i will see you again one day

  5. This is an awesome tribute to Andrea & you can tell how much love & respect that you had for her. I’m she she looked up to you & loved you too. God rest her soul & also ease your pain.

  6. I am sure she would have been humbled by this because the way you describe her she seems to be the kind that would. I am also sure she would have loved it. I think you may have been touched by an angel in knowing her. Thank you for sharing.

  7. My thoughts and prayers are with all of you. SOGA has its own little angel watching over them.

  8. What a wonderful tribute to Andrea. My thoughts and prayers go out to you, SOGA, and Andrea’s family and friends. Earth has suffered a great loss, but Heaven has received a great gain.

  9. This is a beautiful tribute to the precious little girl.To all of you yhat knew her,I am sorry for your loss, You are resting in peace,God Bless those you leave behind.

  10. Jesse her brother is a friend of my son..her an her family will be proud of you passing on this memory ..thank you for touching our life..

  11. That was beautiful… my prayers go out to you, the family, and everyone involved…
    please let me know if there will be a vigil or memorial service held…
    I work at a news station in town and would like the community to remember this young lady.
    Please contact me at cclutter@wowktv.com or work cell 304-415-1568
    Thanks and Prayers, Crissy

  12. I received a call from my son because he was standing at the scene of this accident. I did not know Andrea but she has touched my life & many others. I wish I knew words of comfort but what can anyone say when something this tragic happens? It seems she made the lives she touched better. My heart & prayers go out to her family & friends. Heaven must’ve needed another Angel…God Bless:-(

  13. kathy mallette I never knew this Lil angel but as i read this tears filled my eyes…she was a amazing person as we all knew that read this….My heart goes out to her family, my God bless each and every one of you…and guide you through this ..someone said above heaven needed another Angel , I am sure she has on her wings and has become that beautiful Angel in heaven looking down ….God Bless…..

  14. God bless you for writing this wonderful tribute to such a sweet young girl. What you’ve written, wil in time, be a comfort to her familly. Not everyone would have taken the time to share their memories, to leavc such a loving tribute. May God Bless and ease your heart as well as the hearts of Andrea’s family.

  15. I’m just speechless! All I can say is WOW!! This was very touching! Thank you for sharing all of this with everyone! Some of us who didn’t know her, feel like weve known her forever now!! Very well written!!

  16. This was such a touching post. My dad is a coach at Sunrise Gymnasitcs Academy in Sylvania/Toledo, OH(therefore making me know many of the girls he coaches) and I couldn’t imagine going through anything of the sort. It takes a strong person to hold themself together at times like this and I’m sure your gymnasts appreciate it more than they can ever express.

  17. This is truely touching. God bless you Matt and all the kids at the gym. She has deffinetly made a huge impact in everyones life that new her. The ones that didn’t know her is still giving their respect. Point Pleasant Junior Senior High School is going to be different because of her. She was so beautiful, smart, determined, hard-working, and bubbily girl. You never saw her without a smile for others and she never knew a stranger. Prayers are with the gym, Bailes family, and Sheets family as well!!!:)

  18. Hi matt it’s syd from woodward you taught me my frust giant and I will never forget it! I’m am very sorry for your loss of Andrea even though I did not know her I can tell she is a very nice and caring person I am very sorry!

  19. i know i didnt get to hang out with ann that much but she was the best dang gymnast there ever was! My freind rebeckah littlepage…. my heart goes out to her and andreas family because they spent every second with her ill never forget u ann

  20. Finally, I was able to read it all the way through…..thank you Matt, she would be proud of everything you have done and will continue to do…..she always was. Her gym, her family, her heart.

  21. i used to do gymnastics with Andrea. We competed together in levels 4 and 5. When she would walk off the podium with trophies and medals, she had the biggest smile on her face. Yes i would get jealous but i thought to myself “her hard work and good attitude pays off. you can do that too!” she tried so hard at everything! i always looked up to Andrea and everything she did i tried to do too. She was amazing. Before i quit i remember going to the sleepovers and her and Maddi would stay up until 5 in the morning spraying people with water guns! she was so much fun. i miss her so much!!

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